Monday, January 30, 2023

Reading SPARE…

Reading SPARE… 

First I have to say… if you plan on reading the book by Harry called SPARE…  STOP now and go read it.. then come back and read this..  As I don’t want to sway your opinion one way or the other.  So to be fair..  read the book first. 

For those who don’t want to read it, or don’t want to spend the money on it..  (although it is reasonable priced) or if you have made up your mind of what YOU THINK IT IS..  then go ahead and read this…   if you don’t even want to give it a go, maybe after this.. you might.  Maybe… depending on how single minded you are.. 

Here goes.. I read the book… all the way thru..  And it was pretty much what I thought it was going to be about.. but WAY MORE SO…. I think what bothered me the most was the lack of compassion from his family.

The only ones I can think of … in American, that can compare to his story would be John F. Kennedy jr.. And we know what happen to him.

With his mother.. we saw how it could get..  and in the end, most blamed her.  The difference of her and Harry, is she did chose to join the Royal family..  But hers was of naive.

She knew she was going to be in the limelight.. as she got a taste of it before she married Charles..  It was naïve of her to think it was going to be less… or not more than the courtship.  Maybe figuring once she was married. It would let up. After all before she came along, there wasn’t much going on with Charles and the media. Yes, they trailed him in foreign countries and made fun of him playing polo.. but nothing like the future would bring Diane.  Even with the cuteness phone calls of toe tapping with each other… Camile and Charles was nothing like what went on with Diane… And if Diane thought it would be better if she left the royal family…. She was sadly mistaken. 

See, Charles and Camile were never the focus of the photographs like Diane was….  And then Harry.  The steps in front of them. With flashing of lights constantly going.  To walk down a street was impossible.  The jumping out of alley’s in front of them.. or hanging over walls of the fence around their houses..  the taking pictures thru their windows.   Charles never had that and doesn’t know.

Harry and his mother did. 

Harry and John Jr.  were quite the same..  flashing of cameras every step of the way..  the what makes them similar is… NEITHER one of them asked for this… BOTH were born into this mess of media.    Diane and Jackie knew some what was going to go on… but they too, did not have any idea of how bad it could be..  The four of them … to me got the worse of the lot of ALL royals.. and ALL Americans.  Yes, there are movie stars and musician’s and singers who get the treatment.. but not with such a rapped hounding that these 4 individual got.   Jackie did finally get a court order against a photographer that he had to stay so many feet or yards away from her..  It didn’t stop him, just slowed him down some. 

And that is what this book is about..  what it feels like to be hounded everywhere.. practically as far as in to bathrooms to get that great photo, that they can sell.  It is all about the money.. If no one bought those pictures it might be a different story.. But like vicious sharks.. surrounding them night and day… was their life.. And those born into it.. don’t get a fair chance.

So you think he brought it on his own…  and maybe you think that Diane brought it on her own…  Why do you think that? Is it because they finally got to the breaking point to start fighting back?  That was just what the leaches wanted.. a picture of fighting back. 

How much can you take of your privacy being ripped away from you..  To find your picture in the lastest rag, that you thought was private.  To be on yacht with a friends? To go out to dinner with a friend.. and what about the people you let in the circle.. only to have them sell you out with pictures of what you thought was a fun time together?

What about a friend, or a girlfiend.. boy friend … being hounded so badly even when they aren’t around you… what about your girlfriend, boyfriend .. family being hounded..and photograph over and over and over..  to walk out their front door.. to have the leaches there taking more pictures and yelling at you.? No wonder so many women turn Harry down .. because they couldn’t take the heat.

Even Megan being an actress was some what use to media over load..  was blown out of the water, of how much the over the top lack of privacy.  

While American  is far from innocent of tracking down stars of all kinds..  it doesn’t seem to be as horrible as England it..  And I am sure that is why Megan and Harry moved here.  

What was so totally more sad was the Royal family.. the lack of empathy and the lack of support.  Maybe because while the hounds were after Megan and Harry… they were leaving the rest of the Royals alone…  But in the book you will learn, that even the Royal family of 2022… meaning more with the Queen gone.. there is those who feed information to the press thru their own people.. to send the wolves away from them to Harry.. and NOW cry poor me, as the book came out.  Truth hurts.. and I do believe 99% of what Harry said in the book..    so after you read the book .. ask yourself.. if you were in his shoes…  what would you have done?   Yes, he rebelled as a teen and even in his lower 20… that is just that generation…  look our own American teens and etc..  naively believing things would change if you fight back. 

So Harry,  this old lady does believe you..  felt so bad for your mom, when you were growing up and the press following her so badly, that she stopped the car and told the reporters.. STOP, JUST STOP..  I HAVE MY CHILDREN IN THIS CAR..  I remember that.   

And Harry…  you might want to use my saying.. NOT MY RODEO.. AND NOT MY HORSE TO RIDE… meaning what happens at the palace in England is on them.. You no longer have to stand up for them..  because they did not stand up for you…   Hang on to your family tightly..  enjoy life with them..  and hopefully the American press will give you some breathing room.  But don’t hold your breathe.. they too, are asses. 

The rest of you…. I hope you gave the book the time it was intended.. for the reason it was intended..   Harry had hope you would understand what it was like to be in his shoes..  Sadly for someone who was born in it, and not asked for it.

At least Jackie and John Jr. are at peace..  Luckily Carolina escape most of it.

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