Wednesday, January 17, 2018

Just because you can say it…

Just because you can say it…
Just because you can say it, doesn’t mean you should.

Some people think it is okay what Trump had to say about…. “Why do we want all these people from shithole countries coming here?”  Some say, he was just saying it like it is..  And he does have the right to say what he wants.. it the American way of the first amendment. Which protects everything everyone wants to say.. except for the word said loudly.. unless it is the truth.. FIRE FIRE…  But again, just because you can say it.. it doesn’t mean you should.

It also saddens me that people do defend his words .. not from the first amendment stand point, but from the fact they think he is so wonderful that anything he says, they defend.
And the ones that make me cringe the most.. are my friends.. as I have a couple of people we call friends that think Trump is great.   You might ask me.. why do I keep them for friends?  And my answer is.. that they have other qualities worth the friendship… so far… There is times when they make me cringe as I lock my teeth together.. And I try my best to keep politics out of the conversation.  

I had a friend who found out that I voted for Obama the first time around.. And she flipped out when she found out I was going to vote for him. Instead of trying to change my mind, she went on the attack. With words about my mental condition and how I didn’t deserve to vote.. that my voting privileges should be taken away. There was a full page of these thoughts.. As I read them in shock, as I have NEVER EVER told another person how to vote. I encourage them to get out and vote, even when I know they aren’t voting for the same person I am.  When I reached the bottom of the page.. I got another email from her… telling me that it was the final email I would get from her.. and she was blocking me from her email box.
I was flabbergasted to say the least.  I sat there in shock. Disbelief.  This was a woman who I admired. We worked together..We worked in a nursing home and we went up against the powers that be several times together for the residents.  I lost a friend.. or at least I thought we were friends.  Evidently not..  So as I deal with friends and the Trump situation.. I try to be a good friend.  And believer everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

So he can say it…but he shouldn’t have. Even if it was behind closed doors.. As President in the past have found out.. it always gets out. 

Tuesday, January 16, 2018

What Hawaii taught us....

What Hawaii taught us.

What a scare for the people of Hawaii on Saturday.  I can’t even imagine the thought process they had other than being so scared. Go to shelters.. WHAT SHELTERS? I am sure they have shelters from really bad weather.. like schools and halls and etc.  But for a bombing?
My cousin was visiting with his son.. they spent an hour in a bathroom before they got an all clear.. it was a mistake.  And why did it take 38 MINUTES of hell… (for the people) to send out an all clear message to the people?  38 MINUTES… think about it…you get antsy waiting for a minute on the microwave.. 38 minutes!!!!!!

So what has Hawaii taught us all?  It has taught us we are not prepared in the least of ways..  What if North Korea did send one of their missiles?   To even Portland  or Seattle..  As I told the King.. actually, asked him… what would we do?  If we had gotten word that the missile was heading to us?  What would we do? Where would we go?

How far reaching would the bomb be? If it hit Seattle.. or even Spokane???  And if it was a nuclear bomb?   I guess what would come into play, is what my mother told me in the 1950’s. That was when a lot of people were digging holes in their back yards for a bomb shelters.
She told me that she and Dad would not be doing that…  That if in fact a bomb did come.. she would take us out side… and have us all bend over and kiss our arses good bye.. because no filter system was going to keep the gases out of any bomb shelter. and it would turn into a tomb..  So she would look around one more time.. of the beauty of our home and yard.. and we would be gone.

Wednesday, January 10, 2018

Etiquette for funerals

Etiquette for funerals.

What is the proper etiquette for funerals these days?
See when I have gone to funerals in the past, there was a few things you could do.. 
1.    give a card
2.  . put money in that card
3.  . take a dish to the family home

And then there is .. who do you go to funerals for?  And why?

I go to funerals to pay respect. Some times if it is some one I know really well… I go even if I don’t know the family.. Which in a way is kind of crazy.. because they have passed so how do they know I showed up.   I guess my answer would be… because I want the family to know their love one meant something to someone other than family.

I also go to some with my husband, because he has asked me to go with him.  In support for him.  Some I have him go by his self, as there are so many people there that he knows and I have not a clue of who they are.  That way he can mingle with others after funeral gathering and visit with all of his old friends, without worrying if I am getting bored.  He can go, take his time, and as long as he wants.. I am good with that.
Then there are the person’s family. Of which I know them as well.. so want them to know I respect their love one.

Now for the top 3 questions..  I or my husband will take a dish over to the family house, to help out so they don’t have to cook for the families who come into town.  We do this for those who we know well…. And local.
We always give a card.. even if for some reason we don’t go to the funeral.. we will send the card.  And with the internet now, and funeral homes having a guest book.. I will go on there and leave some words.

Now the big question.. do we put money in the card. They answer here.. at least for us.. is ..if we know the family is in a bad financial place, we will put money in.  But that has gotten to be a rare thing.  I know when my husband before the King… passed away… people had put money in.. (this was 30 years ago) it helped a great deal… it help with food and etc, until my finances got straighten out after his death.
But one hardly ever hears of it now. And some don’t even bring a card.

So what is your funeral etiquette or your way of doing things? 

Tuesday, January 09, 2018

Tax time.. and Tuesday’s

I have thought it over.. and will do Tuesday and Wednesday… with an occasional Throw back Thursday added from time to time…

I seem to have too much going on …on Monday’s and lot of time doing great grandson duty on the weekend.. with a few hours on a weekday… sometimes.  I am on an “as needed schedule”.  So Tuesday and Wednesday seem logical… And we will see how it goes.  As I find it is still fun to do this.. just wish I could fine more to laugh about.  Well, I can, but some people get upset with my sense of humor.

Did I mention over the years that I hate Tax time?  Maybe it comes to mind because last night I spent 3 hours just going thru papers. Reciepts, and etc.  Even though I thought I was doing a good job of putting the tax related papers in a folder.. I guess I wasn’t because I found at least 20 receipts that I will need.

I have one of those folding folders.. with a slot for each month. And every financial paper that I get.. either a receipt or warranty, etc… I put in the folder for that month…. So filling up 12 slots for month receipts and one extra for tax related papers.  It also makes it easier for finding a receipt for something that went belly up.  Or if I get a notice of a non payment, I can show that I did.. So it works well…. And at this time of the year.. it is like a fat cat.  So I go thru them all, to make sure I have all the tax related papers.  Also see where my money went..  even for the non tax related items…  And I have come to the decision, that if I could give up eating… I would be a rich woman.  One grocery store alone was $3,673….and I don’t want to even talk about Wal-mart… of course we didn’t eat everything that we got at Wal-mart.

Anyway… see you around here on Tuesday’s and Wednesday, if you aren’t doing anything…

Thursday, January 04, 2018

So what have I decided to do about the blog?

Good question… I still like writing from time to time… so I have been thinking.. maybe make it a once a week blog… Wow what switch from the beginning.. where it was all the rage.. And it was new … and I blogged daily.  Some times twice a day.  We all did.. had so much in us to talk about.

Also I find it  Therapeutic , good for warring off Alzheimer’s.  I have a friend I sent my blog to. And she still enjoys reading it.. 

I have the most trouble when there just flat isn’t anything to write about.  Well, anything I care to write about.  As the world makes me think of the title of a old movie.. THE GOD’S MUST BE CRAZY..  Also I rather write about something funny… humorous. …  as I think the best of all sounds is laughter..   and the kind I like is the one that is not at the expense of others.. Me? That is ok.. because some times I do some dumb things.   And getting old sometimes can be humorous. 

So I guess the answer is I will continue.. just not as much.

Wednesday, January 03, 2018

What party are you, they ask..

And the answer is neither. Well, not quite true. If you are a regular reader, you know I made up my own party back when Bush Jr. was running the first time.

I am neither a Democrat nor a Republican.. and I hate saying I am an Independent, because some of those Independents are off center if you know what I mean..  So I made up the Cafeteria
Party… where you walk down the aisle of political parties and pick from each one..  but for the past 8 years I have been on a diet as there isn’t any one worth having.  Except for a few locals.  

I remember when they use to be good politician  men, as there was a rarity for women to be politicians. There were the Kennedy’s, the Eisenhower’s.

Eisenhower was a very friendly President. He use to come to Newport, R.I.  to the Naval base there.. where the War College was.  I use to walk to my job from home quite often. And when he was there, I would see him practicing his golf shots on the large lawns they had there. He and his guards were there.  He always waved at me each morning. All because the first time, I walked by, I waved at him.  I thought that was pretty cool.. I was too young to vote couldn’t  voted for him.

 Funny story.. I worked for the Naval Exchange on the base…and the first time he came on base, we all decided in our 2 offices that we  would go and watch him go by.  We were told we could only go on our lunch… IF he came at that time. We found out he was coming at 10’30am.. which was way before our lunch.  After talking, we told the bosses that we would go, and work thru our lunch time. One of the bosses said no.   we were bummed… At about 10:20, we knew he was coming soon…and we could make it to where he was going by, in about 5 minutes.. We all decided to go.. after all, if we ALL went..what could they do?  They couldn’t fire all of us.. So we agreed and went… and we did work thru our lunch time, so the government didn’t lose any work time.  I had a brownie camera in my pocket and when he came, I took a picture..  And when I got it developed.. there was only the flag on the front of the car in the picture.  I guess that is the first walk out they ever had.. a protest.. before protesting was cool.

So what party am I.. none of the ones you know about.. I am a Cafeteria Party…

Tuesday, January 02, 2018

Old Wife’s tale of January 1st.

Old wife’s tale I heard in 1959, on January 1st.was that what ever you do on January 1st of the year.. is what you will be doing the whole year around… 

That year.. was my first year in San Diego, California.. and on that date.. there was a mile earthquake.  Now a 18 year old.. from Rhode Island where the worse we had was hurricanes.. it crossed my mind, as I watch the over head light swing… they don’t make California houses very stable.   And to be honest with you.. I don’t know how many more earthquakes there were the rest of the year.  One in Idaho in 1985 scared me worse than those did. That is were the house, the truck in the yard was dancing.. and I was running thru the house at 6am, screaming at the kids.. GET OUT OF THE TRAILER… EARTHQUAKE!!

Now this year.. if that old wives tale is true… then I will be having breakfast with two of my grandchildren.. and watch my great grandson… and then having a fantasic dinner … made by my husband. 

Thursday, December 28, 2017


as we are getting to the END of 2017... and as I posted a week or so ago.. as I CONTEMPLATION if I should continue... or not.. I came across this post of 3 years ago... So I will keep this in mine.. as I decide..  


Soapbox and lights...

I got a comment sent to me from an old post a couple of months ago.. I think it was listed under telephone books?.
They said they liked my blog and words .. (the usual of spam
lead in) it  was from a I NEED A JOB  Utube site) they asked
a question...but it was a valid question.  Even though I suspect it was more of a spam than real... I decided to answer it anyway.

They asked how did I center myself before I started typing up
my blog.  I answered the best I could with how sometimes I have
an idea and start typing and the rest is history..  Sometimes
I have an word and start typing and it fleshes out... and that I
type out on Microsoft Word and then transfer it over to blogspot.
Because I have typed it up on blogspot and hit publish and
POOF... it was gone.. really gone.. into never never land. And I had to think of what I wrote and do it again. Which doesn't always turn out well.  Also by doing it this way, I can play with it.. correct spelling, add words, take away words.. Then copy past the finish product to blogspot.. and if it fails.. I still have it to paste again.  Works for me. But also some days, I have nothing.. and don't know why I am still here.

Also I was asked why did I start a blog.. And my answer was
someone told me I could do it.. and I was up late at night and
bored... the words "you can do your own blog as easy as 1.2.3. and there I was...  But I said I tried it because, sometimes I have a lot to say.. and I try to keep it humorous as much as possible.
But it also it was my way of a soapbox... my soapbox, and no
one could knock me off of it.. They could make fun of me. They could tell how horrible I was.. but they couldn't knock me off it.   my soap box.....   

Wednesday, December 27, 2017

The ups and downs of life.....

This past year of 2017, has had its many ups and downs.

It started out with joy… The announcement of one of our granddaughters sending us a save the day, for her wedding. It was going to be in August… We had plan on a trip to the kids on the coast.. so this fit in fine with our plans. As we had promise a return trip for a remodel of one of the boy’s garage.  This is was wonderful….

And after having a hellish year of 2015 and 2016… we were looking forward to some joy in our lives.

But we found out that fate was not done with us yet…. Because in May we lost our oldest daughter.. no warning.. She had a cold but that was all and because she was working even with the cold.. she was getting run down.. but was on a 3 or 4 days off section, so was mending from that.. But one night… she was in her yard.. took a picture of a rose I had gave her the year before..  That it had bloomed.. she was so thrilled… I cherish that picture… because it was the last picture she took and put on Facebook…  as with in an hour later she was walking across her lawn and suffered a massive heart attack. Her neighbors called 911 as there was no one home. 
June brought her celebration of life… So many people came so many tribute her in her good deeds of life… While a parent is proud of their child.. a parent doesn’t expect to hear it at a celebration of life… and a great life she did have.. and so many she had helped over the years..  She was 56.. TOO YOUNG…
And fate wasn’t done yet…. As also in May, my son in law found out he has cancer… so long sessions of chemo in the future.. and add to that, his sister is fighting cancer as well…

In August, as planned we attend a wonderful.. wonderful wedding of our granddaughter.. a great day in deed.  Then a few days we were on our way to our son’s to help with the remodel… Wonderful great memories, built as well, with the whole family.

The fall brought hunting season..  and produce a deer and later an elk for the King…  and we celebrated Thanksgiving with family….  

Heading in to Christmas, we had snow come in for an early visit.. adding 15 inches in 12 hours..  Snow blowing and plowing and shoveling…  All part of living in Idaho.. And the beauty of white snow and sunshine days.. and dips to the below 0… and now the hacking coughs…

Yep…a true up and down years… may 2018 treat us all well … and continuing good health for all of us.. especially the ones still fighting cancer in our family… 

Tuesday, December 26, 2017

I have had better Christmas’s

Finally Christmas is over… and this year is not on the top of the list of great Christmas’s.

See the King and I spent our day in our pj’s because we didn’t have the energy to do much more…  We missed out on the family Christmas dinner at our daughter’s house.
It isn’t because we didn’t want to go.. it is just that we were not in good enough condition to be with others.

We are firm believers of not sharing the gift that keeps on giving.. meaning a cold, or flu or any other malady of choice.

This year, just a mere 4 days before Christmas.. we were blessed …. NOT….. with a dry cough cold. First two days is sore throat and headache.. but the rest of the day.. cough cough cough ..  we have stereo coughing in our house. First the King got it.. then me.

So our day was spend with no energy, open a couple presents… snack on a few things.. like toast and some soup and coffee…  and watch a marathon of THE SOPRANO’ year 3 and 4…

We were sent by the way my daughter and her sister in law Debbie, a care package of food… Bless them..

I think of an old saying of my mothers… THIS TOO SHALL PASS….. I sure hope so, because this is not what I had in mind for the holidays..