IT ISN'T ABOUT DYING... IT IS ABOUT LIVING..

 It isn’t about dying… it is about living…. 

You can chose to live or die the rest of your life… You have the choice to live until you die.. or sit and wait to die.. not much fun in that… but sure is when you chose to live until you die..

When I was a cna many years ago..  we had a lady come to our place..  turn out to be one of my co worker’s sister. She had just lost her husband a few weeks before..  she had been sick and getting weak.. so she came to us. Health care Center..  better known as a nursing home in the old days..    She was grieving as she had taken care of her husband in ill health for 5 years.. and now he was gone..   One day she seem to be pretty low..    I was asked to take her to the dining room.   She could walk, transfer herself.  But was weak, as she wasn’t eating well.    I was putting on her socks and shoes before she got up into the chair.  She was telling me that she was going to die.. she knew it.. I’m  next. I asked why she thought that..  she didn’t have an answer…  So being the blunt person that I am..   I told her, you know.. you have a choice.. You can live until you die or you can chose to sit and wait to die..  it is up to you..  she said, yes, I suppose so….   I asked how old was her mother when she passed..  she said in the upper 80’s..  She was 63… so I told her.. you know..  you might have a long wait if you sit in your chair and wait to die.. … she looked at me, like I was crazy.. And we went off to the dining room..

I went on vacation the next day… for week..  I came back and walked by her room and saw it was empty..  I asked her sister.. where is she..  she said she is gone..  I told her … I guess she was sicker than I thought.  So sorry for your lost.. The sister laughed..  and said no…  she isn’t dead.. she went home yesterday..  I said oh, good.. good for her..   Then the sister told me the message her sister told her to give me..  “Tell, Cis .. I am going home to live until I die.. and for starters.. I am going to do some travelling that I have wanted to do for years..”   The sister told me thank you .. for what ever you said to her.. by the way.. the sister passed. But the patient one lived for 8 more years..

So you see, we do have some control over how we live …. Or die…  So it isn’t about dying.. it is about how you live..