When your parents start acting like your
kids. You 20 -30 years olds with 50 and 60
year old parents have no idea what you are
in for. No clue, unless you dealt with your
grandparents. And somehow that is different
than when it is your parent. The parent who
has always been in charge.
Those of you who are 50 or 60 years old
with parents who are 80 and 90 year
old know what I am talking about.
That is when they say what is on their
minds or do what impish thing you would
never dream of them doing.
My own mother, while in the hospital
for a broken leg, when a horse knocked
her over, was going for a walk with the
therapist. She didn't want to and I talked
her into it. So I went ahead of her and
the therapist, so I could watch the action
of her leg. Remember Mom didn't want to
do this. She comes around the corner
from the room, and plants the back walker leg
right on the therapist's foot and pushed
down hard. Then looked at the therapist and
said, so innocently, OH, I AM SO SORRY,
did that go on your foot? Then turn
to look at me and grinned. I couldn't
believe it.
My sister in law was walking her grandmother
in to their church, when Grandma saw a heavy
woman... Of which she looked at her granddaughter
and said... very loudly...very loudly.. Did you see her,
did you see that FAT lady!. BOY WAS SHE FAT!
My sister in law just about died.
My mother in law, at the doctor's office, was asked
about what foods she was eating. She was a
diabetic and had been in the hospital the week before,
because of it. Told how she was so careful about every
thing, no sweets at all. I started to saying something
about a pie she had eaten the night before. Her head
spun like the gal from Poltergeist, and the evil eyes,
shot thru me. I knew it was going to show up on her
blood test, but I quickly shut my mouth.
I have had friends tell me about their mothers and
fathers. One who went thru a stop sign and when
the son said something to the dad, was told there
was no one coming so you don't have to stop.
So you 20 & 30's something, enjoy your children.
They will be great training for you to deal with your
parents when they get in their 80+.
Finding Beauty in Hope
13 hours ago
2 comments:
What do you do when a parent starts to behave this way at 60 and perhaps was a little disconnected from reality decades earlier? Is that early aging or indicative of a mental disorder that should be evaluated?
In actuality, only a dr. can tell you.. as there is a border line of what those of that age experience and how others perceive it. All of us have forgot where the keys are.. or walk into a room and forget why we are there.. And after 60 .. a lot of us say things that make our kids
cringe because we have found out we don't care what others think. That we don't have to impress anyone anymore... but the line is crossed when one does it to hurt or says things that the most polite person would not.. There are test that the doctor and his aides can run for your parent, to see where they are. If you are there while the test is being run, you will wonder why are they asking such simple questions.. but there is a reason for them.. Oh, yea, two friends, separate parents... took their mothers
to the doctor and mention on the side that they had concerns.. and that parent came off as the most sane person they ever saw.. it is like the white coat kicks in a step up .... to the point both of these friends said they felt maybe they were the one who had problems instead of their parents.. So if Mom all sudden is sharp as a tack, don't be surprised. But hang in there.. if something is array, you will know.. And sometimes it is their medication.. so don't jump on to the mental wagon too soon. Good Luck
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