Food does not cause fat.

Food does not cause fat. And Life is not fair…

I know …. We all think that and even say it from time to time.. I have one son who use to say..  ‘IT’S NOT FAIR”. Said it so much that I thought he would grow up to be a lawyer.   He didn’t.

 If you are a Facebook person, you have seen a meme (that is a picture with words printed on it) and one of those is….

“How old were you, when you found out Xxxxx ..”  which is some fact that we got to know thru our lives.   How old were you when you found out that dogs aren’t the only ones to have fleas … type of question..  Most of the time it is a fact that most of us did not know, and the answer you put is your age because you did not know it before..    So my question is…   How old were you, when you found out that men do not pee their pants when they cough, laugh too hard, or sneeze and etc…   Like all of us women have over the years..  and my answer is 81… because it just dawned on me last week… 

All of us women go into the stance of crossing your legs as you stand to keep from peeing your pants when you laugh too much …. Sneeze  or even and mostly… coughing your head off.   Well, last week I went into the stance and my husband the King, laughed..  Laughed hard.   I told him, just wait until you start coughing hard, then you will be doing the same…  and that is when he hit me hard…..with… I don’t do that… men don’t do that… and I went like the commercial…WHAAAAAATTTTTTTTT?... then it dawn on me, he is right.. I have never seen a man go into the stance!!! WHAT THE HELL IS WITH THAT???  That just isn’t fair. …..

Then another one that hit me.. which I did already know, is that during this two weeks….I have hardly ate anything.  A small half sandwich.. a cup of soup..  a half cup of oatmeal cereal…  a piece of chicken.. and half a cup of mash potatoes.   That kind of stuff…  2 FLAMING WEEKS AND LOST NOT ONE POUND!!!     So I have come to the conclusion… that food does not make you fat..  What does? I don’t know…

The other thing is.. 2 weeks so far of coughing my head off.. some times more violent than others.. but at least 30 or more times a day.. and partly thru the night.. no matter what meds.. Now my gut hurts from all of this coughing..  Sooooooo…  you would think I would  have great abs. Not the old flabby belly of an old lady…

LIFE IS NOT FAIR…

 

 

 

 

 

Some days are nice and quiet.....

 Some days are nice and quiet... and it only takes a flick of the mind and eyes to catch wonderment. 

This morning as I was taking the garbage out, a flick of light caught my eye on the deck... And almost missed a moment....   

You know, a moment that life stands still and God shows you something of beauty.  Something that in our rush of things, we zoom by..   Like the saying ... we don't stop and smell the roses...

We don't stop and see the beauty of life in a simple of things..  a leaf..  not just any leave.. but the perfect leave of little color, so we would miss it normally... but this leaf caught my eye.. not just the leave but to drops of rain that sat within shining in the sun...  showing natures beauty..  

look closer

now look at how easy it would be to step by and never get to see.......

the ones below.. because as you can see just above, they would be easy to miss....

Hope you are stopping today to take in the beauty of the small things in life. 

7 DAYS OR A WEEK

 7 DAYS OR A WEEK.... WHICH EVER COMES FIRST..   You have heard the adage on how long does a cold last.... but this stuff, likes us sooooooo  well, it swings around to kiss us one more time..  just incase we forget what the first round is like ...  And no I didn't like it the first time around, so not thrilled with the set back..  

It isn't coming back .. bad.. just not as good as yesterday.  Guess that is what we get for celebrating too soon.  Just disappointing to get up this morning and weaker than yesterday...  So back to the meds.. maybe we quit to soon..  

I guess now I am officially old..  my post of the past week is about health.. ours.. lol..    So let's hope kicking off the next week is about great things..  and not shoveling snow..   

Under the weather….

Under the weather… hell, I felt like I was in the bowels of hell… ok, so that is a little dramatic… but it was close.. the feeling like a dirty wet dishrag for at least 3 days.. Sit on the side of the bed in the morning.. still coughing your head off.. (wonder where that saying came from? As you know it isn’t falling off, it hurts too bad) …

THEN YESTERDAY… I sat up on the side of the bed.. and my soul danced up the sides of the walls, and across the ceiling and down the other wall,.. side stepping quickly across the floor….  I felt GREAT… well, at least my soul felt great..  my body was still sitting on the side of the bed waiting for the soul to calm down.. and then raised up. I actually did feel 90% better than the day before.  Still coughing.. but at east I felt like I had rejoined the human race. 

Not wanting to rejoice too much, and wanting the body to keep up with the soul.. I did a few things, that had gone to the side for the past couple of days.  I wasn’t tired, or rung out. But DANG this cough… love to kick it to the curb. We are going on week 3 of this stuff. 

 

But feeling better does lift the soul. Even my microwave, dying did not deter me.. By the way, it isn’t easy to buy a microwave as it use to be. Walmart had about 10 different ones on display and 3 in a box.  And of course the displays are not for sale. And have no booklets anyway.  So went to Home Depot, they too, have about 8 different ones.  Ranging from $44 to $200.  The $44 ones, you should see those.. I open it up and I have seen bigger glove boxes in the car… Did find one that suited us…  actually two, they were just alike, but one had chrome around the door. That cost $10 more than the plain black.  I took the plain black. The sales man looked a little sad.. guess he gets paid by commission?  Told him that I wasn’t paying $10 extra for the chrome, the chrome did not cook the food any faster.      And out the door we went with one in a box.. because they actually have them in the back room.  Thankfully.

Did cross my mind, what if I could not get one. I know I spent my first 40 years without one..  but the past 40 years have been with one..

 

Well, hope this finds you all doing better than we are doing.  The weather is so beautiful these past days.. and now that I am feeling better, the forcast is ……RAIN.  (slump shoulders) …

                                                                

Well this is a revolting predicament.

Monday started ok.. just another Monday.. taking care of business..  lining up Dr. and Dentist appt for the King and etc.

But as the day moved on, the barking of the cough keep increasing..   I guess it is the season..   You know when we go from nice warm weather and then hit the wall of cold weather.  Still thinking we can get away with short sleeves and bare feet.  NOT.. hack hack hack.. that is the tune of the day.. 

Both the King and I are down but we are not out.. YET  stepping up the vitamins and  etc..   Hopefully by this time next week, we will be back to our old selves.. and no more barking..  Feeling fine other wise.. no fever, stuffy nose and headaches.. so hopefully this too shall pass.  

Take good care of yourselves..

 

 

 

How do you get thru the adult children stage…

How do you get thru the adult children stage… 

 

If you are looking for a quick answer, you need to move on.. If you are thinking you will be in control..  move on…

The first 18 years of your children’s life, you are pretty well in charge…  They live in your house, you pay for their food and etc… so that keeps you in the loop of being in charge.

This first 18 years stage is when you build their foundation. You show them by example and by words.. what is good and what is bad.. what the consequences are for each of them.  With the Grace of God, it will be a solid foundation. To withstand life and all of its bumps and bruises of the road.

Now we are heading into the 20 year olds… and older.  The 18 to 20 year old is where  YOU learn patience,  You are not incharge, but you might have a web there..  During those years.. you DON’T TELL THEM WHAT TO DO.. But you can say….. are you sure this is what you want to do, because you know this can happen… Are you sure this is the right choice for you? Takes lots of practice to not say more.. This is training for after 20.

Starting at 19 and half, is where you start learning to keep you MOUTH SHUT… This is a very difficult stage… By the age of 20 .. you hopefully have a handle on it.

Now before you give me..BUT BUT BUT…. WHAT IF… let me take you back to your 20’s… Did your parents tell you how to live your life, where they involved in your decisions?  Did you like that?  Is that the feeling you want for your child or children?   Every time I start to think of open my mouth, I think back to my mother and how would I feel if she decided to tell me , what I am about to say to my child.  99% of the time, if you are smart.. you will shut your mouth… and watch.

When they are 20, it a good time to sit them down and tell them..  that this is going to be quite a transition for you  both. Child and parents.  That you will not be telling them what to do anymore… (no crossing the fingers behind you)  That it will be hard for you, but you know they have to make decision on their own for themselves.  And if I ever say to do this or do that..  just put your hand up and say….. I’ve got this .. Dad.. (Mom) .    Tell them if THEY think they need some input from you… that you would be glad to listen… but you still won’t be telling them what to do.. You will be glad to give them options.. and what the consequences are for those choices.. but the bottom line .. you are letting THEM chose which options..   And you will ONLY give those options when THEY ASKED FOR IT… And this will not be easy for your mom and I.. (presuming it is Dad talking) and we might slip from time to time.   It isn’t we don’t care.. It is because we are going to trust you to make the best decision for YOU….

 And that is how it will be for the rest of your life.. You will gag on your words and maybe even have to put your hand up on your mouth, to keep from giving unsolicited advice. Some times gritting your teeth together so you don’t say anything.. 

But I will tell you from experience with all my kids.. When I let them decide their own lives.. THEY DID GREAT!!   it was a BLOODY MIRACLE.. lol..  Yes, they stumbled, but got right up again. And got it right…  Some times not the choice I would have chose, but it worked for them.. And that is where it is important. Worked for them…

Then if you are really lucky.. like I have been a couple of times.. you will either get it in writing.. or by word, of what a great parent you were..  And they will list some of the things that you taught them over the years…  my thoughts came to mind of.. OH MY GOD, HE/SHE WAS ACTUALLY LISTENING all those years ago..  ..Oh, my God, they got it…  and it will be your reward .. and it will bring tears… because there will be times… you will doubt yourself.. and your kid.. 

Don’t forget as you watch them stumble thru adult life, just as you did..  never use … I SHOULD HAVE, I WOULD HAVE.. I COULD HAVE.. all worthless words..  You use to yourself..  I did the best I could do, with the information I had, at the time I was dealing with it.  

Oh, there might be times between 20 and 25 .. late bloomers 27.. that you think to yourself, you love this child.. but you wouldn’t give a plug nickel for him or her… lol  But some where around 25 this child will shine.. AND you become the most smart person in their lives..   Yes.. it will happen. 

In the really hard times…  you know you can’t do or say anything.. but you can do what I do…   I give that person to God..  I pled with God, that this is a wonderful child who is lost.. please God, have him/her find her way… I tell you God… as I give you…  (child’s name)… I promise I will not help you..   AND it has worked every time.. God is amazing.

Oh, the best revenge you will have on your child?  It is called GRANDCHILDREN… lol..  They are God’s blessing for you… and it will be a great source of humor as you watch YOUR child, manage thru parenthood.

Putting it in the right order….

Putting it in the right order….

 

I see so many of my family and friends go thru such heart ache and anger over the current events.  99% of what they are so upset over, there is nothing they can do about it. .. maybe voting is their only opinions..  but since the beginning of time.. at least our time.. (those 90 years old and younger) there has been NOTHING you can do about ANYTHING  federal government wise.  You can vote that is important…  because maybe if there is enough of you all… you can vote someone out.

There is the cry for term limits.. but there is only one way of term limits…. If CONGRESS vote for it.. And do you really think the Congress people are going to cut their own gravy train off.. NOT.  And voting doesn’t get rid of the Congress person in other states.. so you are at the mercy of other states congress person.

 

So what can you do.. well, think of your life like your hand….  Think of your little finger as the world problems..  It is small because you can’t do much about it..  See above…

Think of your direct life… spouse and children … as your thumb…  Think of your pointing finger as your friends in your life…  the middle finger is your home.. your place where you matter, you have control over who comes and goes in it. …. The one next to your little finger is your job. Like the little finger, there is not much you can do about that one..  except maybe change jobs if your job becomes such personal heart ache.  You can change to another, because there are soooooooooo many job offers out there..  in every direction.. and maybe it is time to change that direction.

 

The whole bunch together…  is a fist, a grip… that you control… the first 4 you can change if you chose to. 

So get a grip on yourself… do what makes YOU happy.  Change what you can, put to the side what you can not… and concentrate on what you do have.. and we all know that the hand can survive with out the control of the little finger in our lives.

We old ones, still got it…

We old ones, still got it…

 The past month my husband “the king” who will be 70 next April…… my sister in law who is 74…… and myself … 81… have been busy…

 Sorting, carrying, packing and etc.  This is the “stuff” that she and her late husband decided to bring to Idaho from their place in Washington State, when they moved.   Now by herself, we signed on to help.

It took us 4 days of working 4 hours straight thru.. I set her up with a box to her right, for things to keep… a garbage can to her left …for throw away things..  A black bag, just behind the keep…. For Goodwill store. And even gave her a box with 2022..on it.. that was for.. I don’t know if I am ready to get rid of this yet.

We proceeded thru box after box…. Cleaning out a alley in between cars in the garage.  There were 3 different alleys.  I would line up boxes, and she would go thru them..  Worked pretty well.  She kept a few thigs.. the 2022 box filled up, 3 bags of garbage, and 4 bags for Goodwill.  We put up shelves, and put a lot of the keep up there.

Then there was THE STORAGE SHED… actually there are two.  One is full from wall to wall, ceiling to floor and front to back… That one I DID NOT sign on for.  She is going to find a handy man type guy with a van to pack up that one and bring it to her house and empty it in the garage. NEXT YEAR….  But I did sign on for the small bunch. The unit was the same size BUT, it was only 4 foot tall from the floor. There was a wide aisle on the left, and a small one on the right. There were boxes down the middle to the back wall.. and along side of the right wall.  Not bad.. then it hit me..  the boxes… THOSE BOXES… were 4 foot high… 4 foot wide… and 5 foot long.. 9 of them!!...

When ever I sign on for a project or even do my own.. I have sleepless nights, as I figure out how we are going to do it… from every angle… Can’t depend on the King, as he does not think logical, so it is heller skeller… and I think logical too much.. lol..  After two nights and a day, I came up with not only a dolly to lift these boxes, but those dolly things.. that has 4 piece of wood in a square with wheels on them.. Figured we could use the regular dolly to lift up on end and shove the wheel thingies under the box.  Great plan.. and it worked .. kind of..  Had a few snags.. like the wheels catching in the groves and etc.  Redoing the ramp/shed connection and etc..

But long story short… we got it done. We moved 5 boxes (2 trips) to her house 45 miles away.  And then went back the next day and loaded up 3 more…  we had emptied one box that didn’t have as much in it.

Did it we… did..  not bad for 3 old folks.. See, don’t count out the elderly… lol.  We are tougher than we appear.  But BOY, are we glad it is over.  Now all there is to do is sort thru the “stuff” in those 8 boxes.. and SHE has to figure out what to keep, what to give away and what to through away…  but that is for another week or so..