Tuesday, June 27, 2023

Love a rainy night

Love a rainy night

Like the song says.. love a rainy night..  and I do .. I also love a good thunder storm..   Love watching the lighting like mother natures fireworks.. And like fireworks.. mother natures lightening show can be dangerous.  To the land as well as  humans.   Bring down large piece of land to ashes..  Also well as take ones home.. 

But I still love to watch and wait for the lightening… and then counting..  One thousand, two thousand … three thousand..  four thousand.. BAM BAM..  meaning 4 miles away.. Some things they are instantly apart.. knowing it is just over head.. 

I have pass love of nature to my children and grandchildren.. and they have passed it on to others..  Remember telling my kids not to be afraid..  it is just God rearranging the furniture upstairs.. and going from room to room… turning on and off the lights..

Even this evening.. talking to my youngest  she 53 and I am 83.. as we watched from our homes that are about 17 miles apart..  with glee of …..did you see that one..  wow.. did you hear that..   me on my deck and her in her front yard in the country.. 

No matter how old you are. You are never too old to be a kid

 

Monday, June 26, 2023

What I am not..

What I am not.. 

I am not Asian,

I am not  Native American

I am not.. Black

I am not Irish

I am not Italian…   

I am not gay   so no special Day…

I am not a vet, so none of the services days.

And I guess there is not month for me.. I get no parade because I am not Irish… I am not Italian (Columbus day) I am not black so no Martin Luther King Day parade.   And I am not gay, so no Pride day parade either..

 I did figured out…  I am… two things..  actually 3..   first I am a MOM. So get that day…  I AM AMERICAN… so I get  4th of July…. And according to the paper work at the doctor’s office and etc…   I am listed as NOT SPANISH…   as that is the only one that applies to me..                Because that is the only one that applies..  because I am not African American..  Not Native American..  Pacific Islander nor Asian.. so the only one left to check is   NOT SPANISH..  and I don’t even want to go to the he/she/them and etc.. part.

 I liked it better before when I was a kid..   because back then one of the options was TOMBOY.. Now that wasn’t on any list.. but but it was a description used.   Just like farm kid was..  And you knew that when you saw me walk away.. as a good share of the time I had horse hair on my butt from riding bare back.

 I was part of the WOW generation..  I was not in any club..   as I was raising kids.. but mostly I just did what I wanted to..  be it smashing cars for scrap iron, or working on vehicles with my husband. And etc..   I just did it.. like I knew what I was doing, so rarely was questioned about it..  and when I was.. and I asked why I should not do that..  they replied..  because you are a girl/woman..  I would laugh and say, what does that have to do with it..  and continued.

Tuesday, June 20, 2023

Can I go too ???

Can I go too ???

About 40 some odd years ago..  I was down on my hands and knees scrubbing the kitchen floor.   I was in my 30’s…  and I was mumbling about something and ending it with ..  “as soon as I get done scrubbing this floor, I AM RUNNING AWAY!!”… of which I then heard this bellow of a laugh … I looked up and it as a friend of my husband’s standing at the door… and then he added.. CAN I GO TOO? … 

Funny how that came to mind today.. 40 some years later. Raising so many kids.. frustrating with the love of my life at the time… all of them.. husband and kids..  some times there were times.. I wanted to run away..  where?  I had not a clue..  Maybe a beach with the ocean coming going.  

I never did run away.. but the thoughts pass thru my mind many times.. And lucky… God had patience with me.. and the kids and husband survived and life went on.

So if you have days like that..  remember the saying my mother had.. THIS TOO SHALL PASS..

Monday, June 19, 2023

Is it me… or is this month flying by

Is it me… or is this month flying by

Here it is the 19th of the month..  the month is more than half over.. which making this June..  the 1/3 of the summer it seems like is over.. Thankfully we have 2 more months.. if it keeps going like this..  I will be just getting use to it and it will be time to put the yard art away..

The yard is even racing thru the month..  The flowers are bloom and then they are done.. The roses have just started..  But the veggie garden is taking its time… Thankfully for that.. 

We even decided to make a to do list so we don’t forget what we have on the agenda for this summer..  We did get one cook out done.

And the King got the truck done.. It looks great!!  Now for too more small jobs and then we will be open to help a friend.. if needed.

But it just feels like the faster I dance, the faster the music gets GOES   and I am NOT ready for FALL.

 

Tuesday, June 13, 2023

So proud of the King..

So proud of the King..

The King has been doing less and less mechanic work. Just doesn’t have his heart in it much anymore..  So we take it in to get the oil change and small stuff.. because most of it is small stuff.

But about 3 weeks ago, he noticed a rot hole in the bottom of the cab on the driver’s side.  About 3 inches..  He decided to fix it himself.  So he cut it out and then made a piece of metal that size, then pound it round in the shape he had to have. and welded in to place. He has it all ground down and sanded so it is really smooth.  Got it wet sanded and prime painted it.. He is waiting for the special color to be made for it to match the rest. Then he will spray it.

Found a couple of nicks …so took  of care those too..

Did a really great job of it.  It has taken about 4 days but he wanted it done right.

 




Monday, June 12, 2023

LET IT GO .. LET IT GO…

LET IT GO .. LET IT GO…

Isn’t that the line from the son in Frozen.. don’t know what she was trying to let go, but I feel it.. 

Every time I decided to clean an area.. be it the desk, or a drawer or two, files on the desk that are kept just in case…   I think of George Carlin.   Surely you saw his take on STUFF..  How we have too much stuff..  We stash stuff..  we keep stuff.. we take stuff on vacation with us.. and if we go somewhere for just a day or two.. we take more stuff with us.

This is me to a T..  and I shift thru it from time to time.. When my desk gets to be a foot or two high.. or even if I am cleaning out a drawer  I do get rid of stuff..  but not enough…  I keep trying..  want to make it easier for the kids when I am gone..

How about you.. is your drawers and counters and dressers piled high.. can you get rid of things easy?

 

Tuesday, June 06, 2023

WORDS OF WISDOM…

WORDS OF WISDOM…

About 12 years ago, I was ask for some words of wisdom.. being I was 71 at the time…  So I sat down and rough draft it… and this is what I came up with…  

As I thought about this assignment and wrote out some outlines, it came to surface that much of my wisdom comes from sayings I heard or read in my lifetime.

      To thy self be true. The person in the mirror knows if you are lying or not, if you are being honest in your judgment of doing your best.  I once read in the Reader’s Digest, so many, many years ago that a student asked our President Eisenhower a question, of which the President said to always do your best. And the student followed it up with “how do you know you did your best?”  And the President answered, the person in the mirror looking back will know. 

      Eleanor Roosevelt saying “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission”. I found to be empowering, because it was up to me, not others, to make me feel what I feel. And if I let others control that factor, then shame on me.  And remember most people don’t know who you really are. Even a sibling does not know you that well. And a boss, an acquaintance, and especially a stranger, does not know you. So how can they make the judgments that they do. Why let those who do not know you, make judgments on you. Their assessment is only as important as you let it be. Like a boss or a wife. The rest consider the source and move on. Know there are some people you will never change their minds. So don’t try. It is a waste of time. It is kind of like the pig story. Don’t try to teach a pig a lesson, it will frustrate you and only tick off the pig. 

      Advice is for lawyers, CPA’s and column writers. Not for me.. so when asked, I don’t give advice. I give options, but only for those who ASK.  As my daughter told me when she was a teen, the phase “If I were you” is a worthless phase. Because we are NOT someone else… nor are they us. The closest we can say is if I were in your position this is one of the ways I would handle it. So when some one asks my opinion.. I tell the several ideas in the form of “have you thought of doing this, or handling it this way or that way. Always giving more than one. This also helps because if it doesn’t work out, they can’t come back and tell you.. well you told me. 

Then in my later years I have come up with Cis’s 4 Questions.

1.     Is this my responsibility?

2.     Am I financially responsible for this?

3.  Should I or do I want to help?

4.  Should I or do I want to help out financially? 

Remember 99% of the time the answer is no. Because in order for others to figure it out, find their way of doing things right, they don’t need a crutch. Moral support is ok.. but not for you to handle things for them. Even if this is and especially if it is .. your adult child. Believe from personal experience this is not easy.

Education is like a fine pocket watch. Don’t brag about it, you only use it when you need it.  Kind of like the Abe Lincoln saying… it is better to be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.  So don’t brag about what you know, unless you really know. Then only tell what you know instead of bragging.

Acquaintances are like chapters of a book of life. Some people come and go thru our lives. Each a chapter in themselves. Some never return and other will drop in from chapter to chapter, some years later.  And the ones, who become friends, will always seem like they never left the chapter, blending in like they never left.

Lastly, I recently came across an idea… Thank you notes. I was made aware of a man who started to write thank you notes. Wow, a man who writes thank you notes was amazing to me.  And then I remembered my mother. She had us write thank you notes to anyone who gave us anything. I know I followed thru to my kids to a point. Especially to their grandmother.  But the man is right. I have been a recipient of thank you notes.. and it is a nice feeling that someone appreciated what I said or did. And many times I have thought of telling someone when he or she did something extra for me… or I saw them, do it for someone else. I thought I would like to tell them, how impressed I was with their acts. So I have decided… that I am going to buy a batch of thank you notes and when such a time comes again.. I will do that.

 

So you see, , there are a lot of good things one has heard or saw in one’s life that teaches us lessons of life.  And I am sure that your parents are looking down and smiling as they see what a fine woman/ man, you have become. See they laid down the foundation of the person you are. And from the looks of things, that foundation is very strong. And the person you have become is where you have worked hard to be that person. The moral being, the fiber, the honesty, are all yours. And if they had lived you would still be that person. The only difference is that they watch you from above instead of down here on this earth of ours.

 

I am sure I will remember something I should have put in this...  words of wisdom.  Something of great value, (smile) but for the couple of days of notes when an idea comes to mind, this is it…

Monday, June 05, 2023

24 years and counting..

24 years and counting..

Actually it is more..  with the first 13 years of being together.. to add in with the 24 married ones..  we rack up 37 years…  That is a long time..  But I know quite few who have a LOT more than what we have.. 

And they have been good years.. We have had some lumps and bumps that we traveled together thru.. but with us having each other’s back, we have traveled well..   Never have had any problems between each other..   But I had already gone thru 2 others, so was kind of a pro.  Lol..  First one was a divorce, second one was the passing of my husband.  One of the reasons why I wasn’t rushing into another one.. so tried him out, test drove him… and decided to make an honest man out of him..  lol.   Some had to do with the fact there is a large distance of years between us.. me being the oldest. Didn’t want him to regret marrying an older gal.. But here we are.. 37 years and 24 of them legal … and we are still counting..  We drive each other crazy from time to time,   frustrate the hell out of each other a lot of the times.. but still worth the ride.  So HAPPY ANNIVERSARY SWEET GUY… THE KING.. 



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