The many faces of Mourning

The many faces of Mourning

We all know that mourning take different routes, and length in time for many.  Some can rejoice in that person going to heaven after great pain. But missing them in their lives.  Some can’t get pass the emptiness.  Some have regrets when the person was alive, not saying or doing something with them. . 

There is the mourning of a parent.. yet knowing that parent lived a good life.  Those who lose a parent who is young.. mourn what could have been.  The baseball games missed, the wedding missed the birth of a grandchild missed and shared. 

There is the mourning of a sibling.  As the empty chair will always be there.  No matter how much you were or were not involved in their adult lives… you will always miss that sibling.  And too, if that sibling passed at a young age, it is the mourning of what could have been, growing up..  A brother is always a brother, a sister is always a sister. 

There is the mourning of one’s child… one of the worse.  If young, all the what is missed. Going to school, celebrating holidays, celebrating and cussing daily life,  the graduation (especially if you have relatives who were born at the same time.. or friends children.. who were pals…you watch as they go thru the life you know you won’t get to see… the wedding .. the grandchildren you won’t have by that child.  So much more… you miss that child to your dying day.

And a spouse. Mourning a spouse, some forget what that would be like for themselves…  As they go home to their love ones, they wake up with their love ones, they cuss at their love ones,  they celebrate a part in life with their love ones, go thru the bumps of life with someone watching their back…… but a spouse wakes up alone.. goes to bed alone.. regrets a celebration that their spouse isn’t part of,  To come home from work and have no one to complain or brag about how work went…. The total emptiness of the each day…   Have doubts?  When you get up tomorrow . look and think about the bed being empty next to you… Walk into the bathroom, and then into the kitchen.. the empty kitchen, no one to say good bye, have a good day… and walking into the house after work, vision.. an empty house for the rest of the night.  Maybe you will understand.

 But one of the misconceptions of mourning is from others.   I have seen some, who will question if someone isn’t sad or in mourning because they laughed at something.  Or they find some joy in life, even if it is just for a moment or for the day.  To be frown on, because they found that joy. Or they found that laughter.  What they don’t know, while that person can find joy in life, inside .. while alone, their heart is still tore apart, missing their loved one.  A love that NEVER EVER GOES AWAY, yet.. they find it in their heart and soul to enjoy life…. As God wanted them to.. other wise we would never have a healing heart..