ME/WE....Thanksgiving

Here we head to the start of the
main holiday season.

This week we start with Thanksgiving.
The holiday for families. One of my
favorite holidays as it does not
involve gifts. I like those kind. Just
the gift of food and good conversations.

Yet, it is the one of the most
argumentive holidays. Bringing out
more fights than any other holiday.
You would think that a holiday for
the family and friends, would be
of good feelings.

Kind of ironic when you think about
it. After all we celebrate this holiday
because it started with the Pilgrims
and the Indian, sharing a dinner in
harmony.

I have been lucky to never be at
a Thanksgiving dinner that ended
with hurt feelings and disagreements.
Even when I was married into a big
family.

Don't get me wrong, we do have in
my family, the "do not invite to the
same dinner relatives". Not that they
are fighting, just they don't talk to
each other. Each of us know that
certain ones, there is silence with
others. And sadly, that includes me.

So in the interest of harmony, there
are separate dinners . Helped
a good share of the time by space.
Living 400 miles away, helps.

I think a lot of it, in all families..
comes from the me and not we
attitude. We are concern about
ourselves, and our views, that
we forget it is about we.. We,
as a family. Some day, hopefully,
not to late as the older members
get older, there will be the We in
the mix.

We have held many Thanksgivings
over the years. And it has been a
great experience. We stopped for
a while, as the family had moved
on in space, as well, as mind. Some
of it because some families share
holidays. So you go to one side for
one family, for Thanksgiving, and the
other side of the family for Christmas.
Helps, keep harmony when you blend
families.

So as you head towards this
holiday. Keep in mind the orginal idea,
of Thanksgiving. The harmony, peace,
and to be thankful for all the things and
people you have in your life.