No, come to think of it.. IT
IS the time for
the talk... I don't care
what your age is.
Life is uncertain.
All of us, don't think we
need to talk about
our end... maybe we make arrangements
or write out some what is to
be done.
But usually that is just
what funeral home,
what song maybe, and where
you want to
be laid to rest.. and that
is about it..
The exception of this, is
those who have
cancer, or another illness,
that is terminal
and involved Hospice, As Hospice is
pretty detailed.. but then,
there are some
things not covered.
You NEED to talk to your
spouse about
what you want. You need to
talk to your
family. It is a conversation that is hard on
your children.. as they
think of you living
forever.. and if they don't
talk about things,
it will never happen.. and
you will live forever.
We know that is a folly...
Sometimes we don't want to
talk about it..
and if that is the case for
you.. then for the
love of family... write it
out for them .. exactly
how you want it done.. and
let them know where
you have put those
instructions..
I once had a directive
written up (hospitals want
them) for when you are
laying in the hospital with
no way to tell them what you
want... I had mine
written up AND I sent a copy
to each one of my
children... and told them..
if they had a problem
with this.. tell ME ..
NOW... don't fight with those
left behind who will be
making the decision for me
at that time.. Some were too happy, but they took
it fairly well.. and that
was over 10 years ago..
I don't care if you are 20
or 100.. you should have
instructions written up. You
should have a power
of authority for
health...written up.. As long as you
are able to communicate, you
can over ride that
directive... it is for when
you can't. Do you want
to be kept on a life
supporting systems? If so.. how
long.. If not.. say so.
But even more important is
when you are no longer
here. Because with out some written directive..
the
family has to make
decisions.. they try their best to
do what they THINK you would
want.. Some family
members get hurt by those
decisions. But if you
have it written out there is
no uncertainty. And remember
there is two parts of it..
There is how the funeral itself,
is carried out.. and a lot
of people do tell that part.
But there is the burial
part... how do you want that
handled? Private with family only? with friends and
family?
YOU REALLY DO NEED TO TALK...
and write it down, so memory
will be refreshed.
happy birthday... m.r. .... s. o... and m. b.