Maybe it is time for the talk...

No, come to think of it.. IT IS the time for

the talk... I don't care what your age is.

Life is uncertain.

All of us, don't think we need to talk about

our end... maybe we make arrangements

or write out some what is to be done.

But usually that is just what funeral home,

what song maybe, and where you want to

be laid to rest.. and that is about it..

The exception of this, is those who have

cancer, or another illness, that is terminal

and involved Hospice,  As Hospice is

pretty detailed.. but then, there are some

things not covered.

You NEED to talk to your spouse about

what you want. You need to talk to your

family.  It is a conversation that is hard on

your children.. as they think of you living

forever.. and if they don't talk about things,

it will never happen.. and you will live forever.

We know that is a folly...

Sometimes we don't want to talk about it..

and if that is the case for you.. then for the

love of family... write it out for them .. exactly

how you want it done.. and let them know where

you have put those instructions..

I once had a directive written up (hospitals want

them) for when you are laying in the hospital with

no way to tell them what you want... I had mine

written up AND I sent a copy to each one of my

children... and told them.. if they had a problem

with this.. tell ME .. NOW... don't fight with those

left behind who will be making the decision for me

at that time..  Some were too happy, but they took

it fairly well.. and that was over 10 years ago..

I don't care if you are 20 or 100.. you should have

instructions written up. You should have a power

of authority for health...written up.. As long as you

are able to communicate, you can over ride that

directive... it is for when you can't.  Do you want

to be kept on a life supporting systems? If so.. how

long.. If not.. say so.

But even more important is when you are no longer

here.  Because with out some written directive.. the

family has to make decisions.. they try their best to

do what they THINK you would want.. Some family

members get hurt by those decisions. But if you

have it written out there is no uncertainty.  And remember

there is two parts of it.. There is how the funeral itself,

is carried out.. and a lot of people do tell that part.

But there is the burial part... how do you want that

handled?  Private with family only?  with friends and

family?

YOU REALLY DO NEED TO TALK...

and write it down, so memory will be refreshed.   

happy birthday... m.r.   .... s. o... and m. b.