When your
children are adults your conversations change.. They change
from the
structure of training and protection to regular general conversations…. If you
are lucky. And if you are smart…… and if
you want things to go smoothly.
I try my
best to keep that rule in mind. But from time to time, well, so far three,
that I am
aware of.. I slipped up. I think it also
follows the gender line as well.
meaning
father to son, and mother to daughter… Some times the conversation
can hit a
button from the past. Even though you
aren’t aware of it. Meaning you
didn’t think
how it was being taken. As you didn’t mean it as a teaching tool.
The
conversation is the same you would have used with a friend, yet, somehow
it something
gets twisted.. …
And
unwanted advise is the worst. But when it is one of your children.. it can be interpreted
as advice or push a button, that you didn’t realize you did. But the adult child takes it as that and
comes back with a remark that will surprise you… or leave you with, how did you
come to that conclusion, feeling?
It is
where you say something as an adult to adult, but it is taken as from Mom
(or Dad).
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