What I told my daughters/strong women

What I told my daughters…/strong women

When I was raising my daughters, I told them they could be anything they wanted to be.. they just had to want it bad enough… that they only thing that would stop them…….. would be themselves. 

So they have gone on and some have worked in a man’s world… One sold tools in the Northwest district…then she decided to be closer to home and works for the city as a groundskeeper because she loves the outdoors and gardens.  The other one that just past away last year… she too, worked for the city, with mostly men…  Keeping all the parks mowed, the flower beds in great shape and etc..   in a different area than her sister..  The third one has been a cook, a welder and I forgot the other thing she did.. The youngest one is working in the office of a manufacture company.  For 20+ years..  Some times these girls had to fight their way thru… but they have done a great job of being independent.  Youngest one went out and bought a house for herself and her son, 20 years ago… it was later that she married… but she is strong. And strong enough to call me on things.. if she think I am wrong.   Just the way I raised them..  

I think all women should be strong.. I admire the ones who went on and did their own thing. I have one friend who bought her own sail boat.. and she has sailed across the ocean from Seattle to Hawaii…  with just one friend with her.. and she was in her 50’s at the time.  I love it when woman can be strong enough to believe in themselves. 

I don’t think women should be like the ones in the 1940’s. Stay home and just be a housewife.. if that isn’t what makes her happy…  And she better have some interest besides the family…… because when those kids fly out of the nest…she is going to be lost.

Now days most couples work..  So they have their home life.. their work life.. and if they are smart they will have their own interest besides their husband’s interest.  If it isn’t a matter of money, then hobbies.. volunteer… there are so many groups that would love to have help.  There are dog shelters, if that is your thing.   If children are your passion.. then there is lots out there to help with.  Children advocate for the courts.  Animal shelters…  even they have foster plans where you can take an animal until they find a home for it. 

There are so many avenues.. so if your husband is a hunter, or a golfer or loves to work in his garage and that is not your thing.. then find your own thing… there is still plenty of time to be together.. and enjoy things together.. and even help out each other in the  interest of your partner.   And talking about their interest over dinner..

So if you are sitting home by yourself.. it is your fault as there is a lot out there to do… that you would love to do.. and they would love the help. 

Myself, my yard is mine.. I love being at home and working in the yard.. but I also strike out for the day for something of interest..  And when my husband comes home.. I ask about his day, where he went for the day.. (that I did not want to do).  We love talking about how our day went… So will you.