Sadness of Motherhood...

So many times I have heard people dismiss women who are mothers, because for what ever reason, they let their children live with the father.

Most don’t even know the circumstances.  A few know, but jump to a conclusion.. and have no idea what it is like.

There are a lot of women out there, who have gave up their wants and desires, to give that right to a child… or children.

No one, knows the pain that goes with that. Only one who has been thru it.

Even if the woman brought it on herself, that she lost her child or children, The scars are still there.  There are many reasons why.. some of them, especially in the past 15 years, has to do with drugs.  Before it was alcohol.

90% of the women who gave up their child, did it for the child… Know or hoping that the father or the grandparents can provide a better environment and possibilities for that child.   Sometimes it is the child that convinces the mother,

that things are better on the other side. The greatest love, is doing what is better for the child instead of what she wants.

Single mother’s know their limits. A lot of them stick it out, some out of stubbornness, making sure the father doesn’t get the children.. at any cost.

Some even making up stories of improper parenting of the father. Actually most times in a divorce it works both ways.. Never really thinking about the child and what is best for the child. And those who cut off the child from ever seeing their lost custody parent, have started a new kind of

Hell. They celebrate in winning… when the loser is the child.

(disclaimer: there are some very few parents who should never see their

child again.. such as the father who tried to get out of paying child support,

so set his son on fire…but these are very few)

I applaud those parents who have separated, divorced and still kept it civil for the children’s sake.. and always … have what is right for the child being the major concern.. putting their lives second.

But it always saddens me, to hear others dismiss the mothers who let go. Never understanding the hell they go thru.. questioning did they really do what was best for the child. Even the child themselves, don’t understand.

So those who make judgments, DON’T… until you have walked in those shoes yourself..  

And I hope and pray you never have to.