Guest or Host ... who chooses?

We have all been on both sides of this coin.

We have been host to friends and family.

And we have been guest of friends and family.

When you are at someone else’s home, do you

chose the television show? Are you offered the

choice?  How about the music that is playing on

the stereo. Or even what is for dinner?

When you are the host… do you give choices?

Do you give the remote to the guest to have them

chose what they want to watch? Or ask what kind of

music they would like to hear on the stereo? What they

would like for dinner?  Or do you put on the music?

Make the dinner and tell the guest .. we are having

this and that for dinner?  Tell them where you are taking

them for dinner, or let them chose the restaurant.

Does it make a difference if it is family? Do you feel

more at ease and make the decisions because you know

them? Or do you have them go get what they want out

of the refrigerator/ have them help make dinner, turn on

the television or stereo? Let them pick the restaurant?

And if you are listening to a nice background music, that

you like, and they say, “don’t you have any other music?”

Or does it depend on how they ask?  Are you offended

If you aren’t given choices if you are the guest?

So who makes the choices when you are a guest.. or

when you are the host?

And with summer coming up… if people just show up

to stay with you.. or call and tell you .. they are on their

way to your house for a visit… are you ok with that? Or

does it upset you, because they didn’t ask a while back?