I am not lazy, just respectful...

When I go to visit someone.. for the day or for

a couple of days..  I am careful about helping out.

It isn't that I am lazy.. and I do offer, but  if the lady

of the house says, no thanks, then I respect that.

I know there are a lot of women who just jump

right in there. Some even will start cleaning the

house with out a word.

But I have found over the years, that ever woman

has a certain way of cleaning their houses.  Most

of them are pretty routine, but with just a few things

different.

One time I had a friend ask me if I thought her house

was dirty, as a mutual friend was cleaning her kitchen.

I said no, I never thought it was, actually she was

more on to her cleaning than I was.  But she said,

(nameless) makes me feel my house is never clean

enough.. she cleans every time she comes here.

Told her, maybe (nameless) feels she has to be

busy.. and doesn't mean any harm..   But I have

to admit, there has been a few times when I felt

like that when someone does that to me.

Also there is the matter of, we each have our

own way of doing things.. like stacking the dishes

in the dish washer.  I was doing a friend's one time

like I do it... and she went in there and rearranged

the whole thing..  So I just don't do it anymore.

Because I felt like I was making more work for her.

So I offer, but if they say no.. no it is.  I will just

visit while they do the work.