First the grieving.... and then.......

In two more days, it will be a month that we lost our

family member...

First there is disbelief.. then there is the WHY...

then there is the taking care of business.... mixed with

anger.

There is the funeral, of course, to take care of.. that is

immediate... the planning...trying to make the right

decisions... 

Then comes the awakening of having to deal with all the

paper work...   all of which you find out is pending because

of the need of the death certificate. That took almost 10

days...

There is the returning the vehicle back to the loaner.

Finding out the bills... checking the papers to find out

what bank?  What insurance company for the car. What

credit cards?  And what the heck are all these cards?

Then getting rid of personal effects...clothing, the things

we all collect.  Seeing if a family member wants anything,

friends...  going thru ones life thru boxes, storage sheds,

gathering up things left with different friends... And never

ending amount, that you finally get the bigger stuff done

and have to stop... Getting burnt out on papers...so many

...  what is important? what is not needed,  useless to us,

papers.. magazine that were saved.. and etc.

We have got 5/8 of it done.. we are at the stage of taking

a break...   And then there is the memorial that her friends

put on.. and we attended.. such a outpour  of love... 4 hours

of hugs, tears, kind words... cards... food.... music...  our

love one would look down and be in wonderment.  We

so appreciate everything.. but the hugs were the best of all.

The room full of love... It all helps and replenishes us to carry on.